Archive for ‘Inspiration’

September 30, 2014

Dance On

Oh very young,
What will you leave us this time?
You’re only dancing on this earth for a short while — Cat Stevens.

She just turned 17, not even two weeks ago. I knew her because her name was Emma, like my daughter’s. She was on the Bradley Farm neighborhood swim team in Herdon, VA, with my daughters. She attended Fox Mill Elementary School with my daughters. She was “tan,” like my daughters. Some people thought she and my daughters were sisters because of their likeness in complexion.

It has been 24 hours since I learned that Emma’s young life was suddenly lost last week. And even though I am not familiar with her family, it has been all I can do to keep breathing. I share from afar her family’s unimaginable heartache that her beautiful smile will no longer grace our earth.

It was with firsthand and heartfelt knowledge of losing a son that my Dad shared a letter with me yesterday that he had written years ago. It was addressed to my sister who was a college student at the time and had just learned her good friend had died from spinal meningitis.

I cling to the repeating words: Dance On. 

I write you this not only for you but also for the mother and father and family of the young woman. For all of us, there is and will be no answer to the question why.

Sometimes I say to God “What are you thinking? Old people and bad people are supposed to die (not that we won’t).  But not infants; not those just ready to take life by the hand and the heart and dance.

Haven’t You thought of all the friends, loved ones, schoolmates, and family members crushed by Your too-soon gathering of these beauties, these darlings? Don’t You know what it does to those who are left when it is done too soon?

He answers me every time and says: 

“Dance on. Your job and your duty is to dance on. 

Even when it hurts and even when you have no legs, the answer is dance on.

You have no idea of what is next and to whom you must be a blessing.

You are left; you dance. 

These whom I have gathered are Mine now and you can’t begin to know the depth of my embrace for them or the tenderness with which I kiss them. 

Your job is to hold on and dance on so that you can bring the sparkle of My love to all you touch. 

And remember this above all: you alone are responsible for your dance and must dance as if you alone were responsible for all.”

I swear, every time I feel the unbearable loss, I hear this. And it feels stupid to say, but carry on. What is left after it all is your lovely part in the dance of life. And death isn’t a final curtain call; just a different rhythm to dance to.

Class of 2015 South Lakes High School

Class of 2015
South Lakes High School

August 5, 2014

Treat Me Right

We set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with our ourselves — Iyanla Vanzan



I always had a crush on “the boy next door.” When I was 4, his name was Tommy. We were born a day apart, our Moms were inseparable, which made us besties from the beginning. I was spoiled early on with his undivided attention …  until our first day of kindergarten.

The first classmate I had to share him with was Lori …  all blue eyes and blonde hair. So much for wedding plans.

I believed in fairy tales — that happiness lies in the affections of a boy, a boyfriend, a husband, a hero.

The sweetness. The magic.

Then I grew up. It took me more than four decades to discover that real magic resides in how kindly I treat myself.

This relationship with self notion is simple, but not easy. And if you struggle with this too, it turns out you and I are not alone. The biggest struggle in life is to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults and imperfections, according to Psychology Today’s article entitled  The 50 Best Quotes on Self-Love

I share my favorites here.


— It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to. (W.C. Fields)

— Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

— Scarcity of self-value cannot be remedied by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence. (Gary Zukav)

— You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing. (Ram Dass)

— Your problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness. (Ram Dass)

— People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. (Elisabeth Kübler-Ross)

— Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. (Carl Jung)

— To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. (Thich Nhat Hanh)


p style=”padding-left:90px;”>— Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
 (Eleanor Roosevelt)

— Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. (Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet)


 — Loving yourself does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion. (Margo Anand)

— Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting. (William Shakespeare, Henry V.)

— To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. (Alan Cohen)

— I celebrate myself, and sing myself. (Walt Whitman)


p style=”padding-left:90px;”>— Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
 (Veronica A. Shoffstall)

— When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. (Jean Shinoda Bolen)

 It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves. — Edmund Hillary, the first man to climb Mt. Everest



For the full list of quotes, go to:

The 50 Best Quotes on Self-Love

Love and appreciate yourself – you’re all you have
March 23, 2011


In 2008, I met Petra Kolber a world-renowned fitness/health educator and trainer with the-girl-next-door warmth.

Oh, the loveliness of this woman! Radiant and regal without any pretense,  Petra has magic as an instructor and the sparkle of a celebrity. I was an instant fan.

When we met I had separated from my husband and was preparing to reenter the workforce. I remember sharing the angst and elation about restarting my life; Petra was closely attuned.

She ignited a light: magnificence lies ahead . . .  keep going.

Through Petra, I’m becoming acquainted with her beloved Michael Port,  author of Book Yourself Solid  and The Think Big Manifesto  (He’s the one to call, when you don’t want to think small)

She can’t stop herself from bubbling over about him. 

All I can say is that she has met her match. Meet the Couple Most Likely to Inspire.

I share Michael’s post from today. Truly, words inspire actions.

Actions will bring us to the magnificence that lies ahead.


Your Think Big  Revolution by Michael Port



You Say You Want A Revolution … 

Your think big revolution starts today and tomorrow.

It started yesterday.

These 9 statements are your proclamation, call to action, inspiration, and catalyst.

Start your day with them.

Start your revolution.

I will stand for something.

I will identify what I stand for through a concerted process of self-questioning and exploration to discover my core, the what that is so me.

I will make public what I stand for. I will hold myself visibly accountable each day to its letter and spirit.

I will be independent

I will be comfortable with who I am right now and know that I am good enough.

I will use my innate talents and gifts to do big things in the world. I will not give up in the face of others’ fear or disbelief.

I will collaborate.

I will be a person others want to work with.

I will work with others without hidden or selfish intent to accomplish our mutual goals in the service of what each of us stands for.

I will be comfortable with discomfort.

I will not seek control.

I will make visible my purpose, make promises in its service, and take risks to fulfill my commitments.

I will make promises and fulfill them.

I will be an authentic person, one whom others can rely on.

I will make hard promises that push me to the best of my capacity.

I will not try to fulfill. I will.

I will submit to authority to be an authority.

I am here to learn.

I will deliberately seek out wise and true teachers and submit to the authority of the constraints they create in the service of our goals.

I will be in integrity.

I will be congruent in private and in public, in purpose and in action. I will act in the spirit, light, and service of what I stand for.

I will be strong.

I am a warrior.

I will train to be strong psychologically, intellectually, and physically, so that I may have the fortitude to do the big things I am capable of.

I will have fun.

I will embrace chaos and joy.

I will let go of the false notion of control and laugh at the inevitable absurdity of existence, mine above all.

I will do all of this now.

I will be now. I am now.

I will not wait for the other in the false security of excuses and procrastination.

I will do it now.

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